Perhaps it is the absence of limitations that causes us the most grief. Some people recoil at the sound of the word discipline. Yet, it is discipline that allows us greater freedom. It is said in the Tao Te Ching that we should dwell within our borders. Of course it must be said that it is important that we find out what our borders are. However, this has no bearing however on how happy and peaceful you can be. Learn to be content and at peace.