It has been said that a person is three things: What he thinks he is; what others think he is; and what he really is. Which one of these do you believe is the truth? The obvious answer is what he really is. However consider this, if one is blind to the truth and is wrong about themselves, and others are also blind to the truth and are also wrong about him, then who is left to say what he really is? To perceive is to be usually be deceived. Seek to follow the path of the Tao and be unconcerned about perceptions either by you or someone else.