A visiting woman once attended an ancient tea ceremony with some locals. The woman did the best she could, but she kept making mistakes and upsetting the host. “You don’t know anything about a tea ceremony!” the host shrieked. “You’ve ruined everything!” she said. The visiting woman was visibly shaken and upset. “Nonsense!” said an old zen teacher who was also at the ceremony. “It’s more important to follow the spirit of the rules, rather than the rules themselves” he calmly said with a smile. Relieved, she immediately became a student of the master.