The one who wishes to pick a rose must be prepared to deal with the thorns. The Dao gives and takes, ebbs and flows, creates and destroys. It is the yin and yang of all things. Sometimes we may wish only the yang, or only the yin, but that is not the way of the universe. All things remain balanced in their own way, and that way is not necessarily the way that we wish. Failure is the mother of success and to be successful almost always requires a certain amount of failure, in one form or another.