It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves. These words were written by Shakespeare. How true this is! It is far easier however to believe that somehow the fates are against us, that the stars and planets are not lining up for us to be happy or successful. It is the one who can look in the mirror and see the true problem. Often times the problem is staring back at us. We cause most of our own grief. We act badly or react badly. The key is knowing that we can be the director of the film as well as the actor. We can write the script. Ignore the critics and perform.