See what is real in yourself and in others. Look beyond the superficial that normally classifies people. It is what is in the heart that matters, not what is in the purse. Develop a sense of reading people. Learn to not just read between the lines, but read off of the blank page. Do not be taken in by kind words as they may be the kind said to deceive you. Instead, look at the actions. A million words have never taken the place of one deed. Lao Tzu has said that beautiful words may not be truthful.