Do not be the clay that is molded by praise or blame. Trying to gain acceptance from others is foolish waste of time. Cezanne remarked that he did not paint for the admiration of idiots. You have yourself, Why look for approval of others? Remove ego from the situation and you have only the situation to deal with. You cannot be one with Tao if you see yourself apart from it. Mold your clay with the teachings of the Tao.