Do not find yourself trapped in ritual. Impermanence is all pervading in this world. We must learn to live with it. Perhaps your rituals are trapping you in a great rut. Try meditating in a different place, do not use incense or candles for a while if you always use them. If you have a preferred interpretation of the Tao Te Ching, try reading another with fresh eyes. Sometimes comfort becomes a stagnant pool of water that needs refreshing.